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Testosterone Weight Loss

Testosterone could be the magic weight-loss drug that men are looking for. Then again, it might not. A new study shows that obese men receiving testosterone shots lost weight, but doctors are divided on the value of the results. Over the course of five years, obese men on hormone replacement therapy lost an average of 35 pounds each. Their body mass index also dropped from 34 to 29, moving them from the obese to overweight category. This coincided with improved cholesterol and triglyceride levels, as well as lower blood pressure. The results are impressive, but some doctors doubt that it’s time to start ordering testosterone shots for obese men. The preliminary study, presented at the European Congress on Obesity, has yet to appear in a peer-reviewed journal, and was also sponsored by Bayer, which makes testosterone supplements. Testosterone levels start to drop in most men between the ages of 40 ...

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5 Tastiest Whiskey Mixed Drinks

Every man needs a go-to drink at a bar – something you can instantly rattle off that won’t make you come off as a pretentious ass or a virgin. Or both. I’m looking at you, guy who just ordered a Bahama Mama. A real man needs a real drink, and whiskey is the best way to put hair on your chest. Why whiskey mixed drinks? Because whiskey is old, it is varied, and it’s damn delicious. Here’s a list of five cocktails every bartender will know, and every man should drink.

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Indicators of Interest From a Woman

How do you know if a woman is interested in you? How significant are these signals? Should it affect your actions and the way you talk to them? To put it simply, indicators of interest are the verbal or nonverbal display of a woman’s attraction to you. There are different degrees of signal that she likes you

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Best Man Speech Examples

The room is full of laughter, idle chat, and general goodwill towards the happy newlyweds (with some rampant jealousy among single female friends thrown in for good measure). Feeling that the time is right, you stand, raise your glass, and wait for everyone to notice you and pipe down. Microphone in hand, convinced that you’re about to knock ‘em dead with your heartfelt tribute, you begin. But wait…something doesn’t feel right. The looks you’re receiving aren’t of admiration, or even appreciation, but derision and mockery. Sweat starts running down your forehead, your pants fall down, your girlfriend leaves you, a five year-old kicks you in the nuts, and you get shot with a blowgun by a ninja in the bushes. Don’t let this bizarrely specific situation happen to you. A best man’s duty is to commemorate the wedding at hand with a proper toast, one that encapsulates the newly married ...

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Will Eating Red Meat Kill You?

If you haven’t had at least one family member, coworker, or soon-to-be-unfriended Facebook acquaintance send you this study as a reminder that you’re killing yourself, you’re either really lucky or your inbox is broken. Thanks to an observational study called Red Meat Consumption and Mortality freshly pressed in the Archives of Internal Medicine, a slew of bold headlines exploded across every conceivable media outlet this week:

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How to Find a Job

If you already read How to Find Your Passion, congratulations on working through the first article and continuing on your journey toward your dream career. We ended part one talking about researching the career you’re truly meant for, but didn’t get into much detail about what that really means or how to go about it. This article is specifically about how to find a job, and it covers the meticulous process of job searching. I’ll go over some tools you can use to make this process easier, as well as some old-fashioned methods that still work in today’s digital world.

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Problems Approaching? Be the Hot Girl

So something I’ve noticed lately now that I’m doing the full Anti-Booze revolution is that new sticking points and thought processes have been bubbling up, which had previously been smothered in vodka for years. The sticking point that has been challenging to fully expunge is that I am not approaching as much as I used to. There are MILLIONS of reasons for this, and I’ve been focused on pinpointing a few of them. Back in Rio, for the first time ever I allowed myself to divulge into negative thought patterns, and see what subconsciously was holding me back. It was weird, I stood in the bathroom stall by myself, and let all those bull shit, negative thought patterns come flooding in.

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"Friends with Benefits" Rules

When it comes to emotional fulfillment, few things in this world can match the benefits of a long-term relationship. Having someone whom you trust to care for you, to look after you and to vouch for you when nobody else will is an amazing feeling, one not easily replicated. In addition, you have someone who you don’t have to worry about in terms of diseases and ulterior motives for sex, who knows what you like in the sack and who you aim to please in return, which makes the entire experience that much more satisfying. Of course, if you’re not in to all that mushy emotional garbage, you can always try to pick up some bar skank to come home with you and do stuff to your penis. Sure, there’s no connection and you’ll probably want to wrap your tool twice – just to be safe – but, then again, ...

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Indicators of Interest

How do you know if a woman is interested in you? How significant are these signals? Should it affect your actions and the way you talk to them? To put it simply, indicators of interest are the verbal or nonverbal display of a woman’s attraction to you. There are different degrees of signal that she likes you, whether she’s touching you or she’s outright telling you that she wants to go home with you.

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5 Tastiest Whiskey Mixed Drinks

Every man needs a go-to drink at a bar – something you can instantly rattle off that won’t make you come off as a pretentious ass or a virgin. Or both. I’m looking at you, guy who just ordered a Bahama Mama. A real man needs a real drink, and whiskey is the best way to put hair on your chest. Why whiskey mixed drinks? Because whiskey is old, it is varied, and it’s damn delicious. Here’s a list of five cocktails every bartender will know, and every man should drink.

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How To Become a Bartender

Bartenders occupy a special place in our society: they make mostly tips and phone numbers, yet we don’t have for them the derision that we do for other working-class jobs, like waiters or carwash jockeys. It could have something to do with the fact that they control our ability to get drunk – which is, frankly, astoundingly important – or maybe their willingness to hit on anything that moves for a few measly bucks, or perhaps their simple elegance of movement from customer to customer, drink to drink, without a second glance or thought. Whatever makes up their je ne sais quoi, the fact remains that bartenders have a special place in our hearts. Of course, in addition to having romanticized personalities, they can make decent money if they’re any good (and if they work at a hip, upscale locale, which is based more on luck than anything else). Of ...

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How To Dress Well - 8 Styles

One of the biggest issues for today’s man is how to dress well. It’s easy to throw on some ragged jeans and a white tee to get through the day, but what does that say about you as a person? It says you don’t care. About anything. If you can’t put effort into the simple process of getting dressed, women are going to wonder what else you don’t put effort into. Every man knows how to dress up in a tux or a nice suit for a wedding; however, many men need to learn that cargo shorts and a sleeveless shirt is dressing down. You need a style, and this guide is here to give it to you. Style 1: The Graduate The Graduate wakes up, checks his schedule and realizes he’s got a tee time this afternoon with his frat brothers from Yale. After that, he’s on his way ...

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Play In Your Lane

One thing that you don't hear too much about in the seduction community, is a concept called playing in your lane. To summarize it, it basically means having an understanding of who you are, what you have to offer, and what types of women are willing to buy it. Every guy who understands what playing in your lane means, knows that he shouldn't really try to win women over with game, but rather, he should find women that are going to be naturally attracted to who he is as a person Play In Your Lane One thing that you don't hear too much about in the seduction community, is a concept called playing in your lane. To summarize it, it basically means having an understanding of who you are, what you have to offer, and what types of women are willing to buy it. Every guy who understands what playing ...

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Style Inspiration: Ryan Gosling

Just last year, TIME Magazine’s Joel Stein dubbed him “Coolest Person of the Year,” and while some may vaguely remember Gosling from The Notebook many years ago, Gosling is now a household name after his most successful year as an actor. He starred in the widely praised Drive (superb acting), and co-starred alongside George Clooney in Ides of March – being nominated for best actor in each movie. He’s also been called New York’s real-life “Batman” after randomly being spotted breaking up a fight in the city streets. It’s been almost impossible to go a full week without hearing a female friend swoon over how “hot Ryan Gosling is in Crazy, Stupid, Love.” There’s even a website dedicated to women who are obsessed with him called F**k Yeah! Ryan Gosling with photos of him and tongue-in-cheek captions. While the famously funny Steve Carrel was the lead in the movie ...

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Escaping the Pickup Circus

When I initially got into pickup, I was quite encouraged by the prospect of hooking up with the best-looking girls by somehow mastering a program. I studied books, went on bootcamps, and lived in forums. The cold truth was, I wasn’t getting better with women – I was getting worse. A LOT worse. But how could this be…! The reason was that I had fallen victim to the self-perpetuating marketing machine that is “The Pickup Industry.” Run predominantly by money moguls, companies lure gentlemen in by preying on their insecurities with women. Once they are in, they are imprisoned within the community (read: circus) and soon conditioned to adopt the PUA language, which they believe is the secret code to unlocking a woman’s knickers, but paradoxically is exactly what is keeping them confined to a theme park where only the big boss is winning. Most guys who use words like ...

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Gangsta Pick Up Artist

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2 Girls 1 Pickup

It still amazes me how this simple insight, which has served me very well over the years, is rarely mentioned, so I wanted to share it with you today. I used to go out and pick up girls, but at the time there were no books or communities offering information; I simply learned from trial and error and by watching the people around me. If my friends and I were looking to hook up with girls on a particular night, we would observe carefully and pick our shots. Most often, our decision whether to approach or not was based heavily on one overriding question: Were the girls in a pair? Girls that are out in twos are generally either having a heart to heart or are out to get laid. If they are having a heart to heart, it’s usually because of problems one of them is having in their ...

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The Cheesecake Test

The challenge for us in conversation with a stranger we want to connect with is one of getting the other person involved and invested in the conversation with us. However, this doesn’t happen when the other person feels forced to interact with us. Put pressure on people with questions or demands or a feeling that they’re being manipulated and you can create a cycle of diminishing returns. “So where are you from?” “Cypress.” “What are you doing here?” “Nothing.” “Uh, I don’t know what to say next. Should I ask another question?” “I’m thinking not.” You can be as tricky as you like, but anytime you push someone towards an outcome, you’re thinking the wrong way. Return to Go. I got an email from a phone coaching client yesterday. He’s been going on dates and meeting women. He wrote something I think helpful for everyone to read. He wrote, “I ...

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Ambition vs. Availability

About three years ago, I attended a panel discussion about dating hosted by a popular relationship expert. A friend had invited me and it sounded like a fun two-hour distraction (with an open bar, to boot). The panel consisted of three girls and three guys, ages 25-34 and of varied professions. The host peppered them with the obligatory questions: dating do’s and don’ts, the appropriate number of dates before sex, when to take things to the next level … you get the idea. The panelists were thoughtful, candid, and funny, if not illuminating. But the one Q&A that really caught my attention came about when the women were asked what traits they were looking for in men. It was an obvious question, and so followed the obvious answers: chemistry, intelligence, kindness, sense of humor, certain physical qualities, attentiveness, and so on. But the one attribute they emphasized above all else ...

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Making Your Approaches Count

I was out with a student on Saturday, and every time he’d return from an approach and I asked him how it was, he’d say “Fine. It was okay,” or he’d provide a similar bland response that gave me no insight in to where his head was really at. I’d ask him how he felt and he’d say, “Okay. Pretty good.” He was just approaching blindly, not particularly enjoying it, and not really learning anything new from each interaction. He was simply plowing through his approaches without experiencing any significant mental breakthroughs or gaining any understanding about social reality. This is a common trend that I see with guys wanting to improve their dating success. They go out, approach a series of girls on auto-pilot and disconnect from their core energy, then go home with a sense of incompleteness or frustration. They end up feeling pretty down, and unable to ...

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Debate on the Flaws of Pick Up Artistry

Every so often, I get a really well-thought out email that isn’t just an “attaboy” or even a random flame or criticism, but something that someone has actually put some serious thought into expressing. With Sukh’s permission, I’ve posted this email below. I’d love to have readers comment, whether that’s in the comments section below, on Facebook or on Twitter, about their thoughts on this. When I have time, I’ll write my own response, probably as a separate article. Sukh, thanks for sending. You definitely raise some good points, and I look forward to discussing more soon (I’ll email you as well to let you know when I manage to write an update).

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How To Become An Expert

For the past month, I’ve been studying people who have become skilled and knowledgeable enough to be called “experts” in preparation for the launch of a new blog. I’ve interviewed experts, spent time with them and have asked them whether shortcuts exist to becoming an expert (and received some incredible responses like the one from Seth Godin above). I’ve even read books by people who study success and expertise (expertologists?). Part of me expected to find some secret shortcuts to becoming an expert, and part of me knew better. I’m most interested in how people gain expert-level skills and knowledge on multiple subjects quickly. Being a renaissance man has always appealed to me, as has getting very good at just a couple of things. Both types of expertise are as fascinating as they are useful. Despite wanting to believe secrets and shortcuts to expertise exist, deep down I think I’ve ...

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How To Be Congruent

“Just be congruent dude.” Have you heard this before? People espouse that if you were just able to be congruent when you go up and talk to a girl, everything would smoothly flow into an exciting adventure of bliss? Well… It’s true. I always try to conceptualize how UBER successful dudes like Leo DiCaprio or George Clooney would go about meeting women. I’m sure it’s super relaxed, no-nonsense, just “say it how it is,” have some fun, and things smoothly lead into the bedroom. But what if you don’t have HUNDREDS of reference points of success with the opposite sex that allow you to act clearly through your own intentions? What if, in that moment you see the girl, you feel needy and nervous? Then, to act congruent would be to go up and act needy, right? NO!

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Learning from Pain

There is much to be learned from pain. Especially physical pain. I would never say it warrants being sought out or needlessly extended but there is always a lesson in it. It makes for a good metaphor. And metaphors are the key to understanding the world, as well as ourselves. I fractured my elbow recently in a fall from a bike. I got up to try to shake it off. Stay with it, I told myself as I made my way to the gym to clean up. Do you want you need to do in spite of it. The value of physical pain is that it is finite. It ends when the ailment ends. We can use this as an opportunity to push on through, with the safety net of knowing it will eventually be over. It is practice. For every physical pain or ailment, there are a hundred emotional ...

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Dealing With Fear

We can never gain anything without sacrificing something else. In other words, there is a benefit and a cost to every belief we hold and every choice we make. We don’t dwell on the costs or the pain for too long because of how it feels inside our bodies. For the most part, we believe and convince ourselves everyday that we have made the best choices available to us. This preserves our “sanity”. We tend to blame external factors (people, circumstances, etc.) for our lack of success and unhappiness in life. On the other side of the spectrum, we are also really good at convincing ourselves that we’re winning in the game of life. Everyone has entitlement to their own subjective point of view and everyone gets to be right. However, there are an infinite number of perspectives to consider and your choice of perspective will determine how successful you ...

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Evolutionary Psychology & Sex

In The Red Queen, Matt Ridley discusses the compelling account of human behavior supplied by evolutionary psychology (“EP,” to those who have read at least one book on the subject), with special treatment to the role played by sex. Although published almost 20 years ago, the book remains strikingly relevant to the tiny percentage of single, heterosexual guys who seek prosperous relations with women. EP is a big topic, broadly defined as evolutionary theory and psychology smushed together. More helpfully, it tries to explain human conduct as a function of psychological, “domain specific” modules, which evolved over millions of years of natural (from our external environment) and sexual (figure it out) selection, in precisely the same way that our hands evolved for holding hands and our tongues for licking stamps. While not all EPists agree that our brains do employ such modules in charting a course to genetic eternity (“waist/hip ...

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