The other day, a buddy told me that the reason I wasn't having as much success with women as I would like is because I don't possess enough "swagger." I asked him "What is swagger?" because it's a phrase I've heard before without really knowing the definition. Annoyingly, he couldn't really articulate it either, and so I thought I would ask here to see if anyone could provide a good working definition beyond:
...Which are the two primary definitions of swagger provided by Merriam-Webster. Maybe he was just telling me I need to be a bit more arrogant? I don't know if that's really it, since I've always been told by girls that they're not into arrogance. I know I need to work on my confidence, but swagger seems to be a particular type of confidence, and I feel like if I had some good examples of it, I could do a better job of working at it.
First of all, the question What is Swagger doesn't have a simple answer - certainly nothing a dictionary can fully comprehend in a few short words. But, since you've asked the Manism community, I'll try to break swagger down for you.
Swagger is how you represent yourself
Swagger is the aura that surrounds you wherever you walk. It comes from all facets of
your personality, and how you present yourself to other people. The style of clothes you
wear is a major part of your swagger, as well as how you speak, move, and even react.
Swagger is not the same for everyone
There are boatloads of people out there with plenty of swagger to go around, but that
doesn't mean they all act the same way. Your personal swagger should be representative
of your unique personality. Think of Jay-Z and his all blue Yankee swag - now think of
Frank Sinatra, never caught without a suit and a cigarette. Both have immense swag, but
their swagger is a display of confidence in who they are. Which is what leads us to...
To have swagger, know thyself
There is false swagger (aka swagger jackers) and true swagger. Swagger jackers are
people who copy someone else's swag, trying to be cool, but eventually are exposed and
humiliated. True swagger comes from knowing yourself: your beliefs, your goals, your
passions in life. It is knowing exactly who you are, and being totally confident about
it. If you have self-confidence issues, sit down and reflect on who you are for a
moment. Ask yourself what is most important to you right now, and go about achieving
that. Have confidence in what you want, and why you want it. Perhaps most importantly,
don't act like someone you're not. Swagger isn't about being impenetrable, or having all
the answers - it's about accurately assessing what you are capable of, and pushing your
limits to improve yourself.
Here are some examples of unique swag: Andre 3000, George Clooney, Kobe Bryant
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Edited: 25 Jan, 23:15
Answered: 25 Jan, 11:18
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