What are good indicators of interest?

If she's still there?

Touching her hair, smiling, laughing.

The only one I ever really notice is if a girl is touching me more more than is strictly necessary. If she's hitting me, then I really know I'm in :)

One thing to look for is if she tilts her chin down, towards her neck. This is a subconscious reflex for a girl who is looking to appear more feminine, and thus more attractive, to you.

The closer her face is to your face [moment to moment, not like she trips and falls into your lap (though that may be a signal as well)], the greater the chance that she's diggin' your vibe.

If you bring something up, a topic or some such that you're interested in, and she tells you that she (surprise!) is into it as well, but has no specifics to back it up, she's butter in the palm of your hand.

Stop looking for indicators of interest. If she's standing in front of you and saying anything more than yes, no or maybe answers she's interested.

Interested is good. It can take you a long way, but it doesn't mean it has made or broken the interaction. Interested is not sold.

You need to look for escalation green lights. These are things that she's doing to positively move the interaction forward.

• Ask's you a question
• Touches you
• Laughs at your joke
• Plays with her hair
• Smiles while you talk
• Like RJ said, if she mentions that you have something in common
• Compliments you

...and so on and so on.

But the real power of this isn't to see if you have a chance or if it's worth sticking around. It's so that you can spot timing for your escalation. If she gives you green lights it's a signal for you to jack up your escalation into overdrive and start moving faster. You should always be moving forward with your escalation but these little tells show you when to start skipping steps, removing fluff and start going for the money.

I know it might seem like there is an overlap with the traditional IOI definition, but always be aware of your vocabulary. The definitions that we use and the terminology we allow define our thought process. There is a big difference between her being interested and an escalation green light. Recognize it.

If she plays with the stem of her wine glass

There might be many good indications from a woman that show her interest in you, as already mentioned above. But her activity with her smartphone in your presence tells a lot, as given below:

1. She switches off her phone, means you are the best guy she was looking for many years
2. She activates silent mode and places it aside, means you may be the best but she is not 100% sure.
3. She stops using it, and puts it aside without turning on the silent mode, means you are included in the list of the persons she is interested in.
4. She keeps it in her hand but looks at the screen very infrequently, means you are a potential candidate to enter into that list.
5. She keeps it in her hand and looks at the screen frequently, means you are only a good pastime for her.
6. She uses it but stops it to respond you, means you are a nice person only
7. She texts, tweets or updates her status and when you ask, "how are you?" She replies, "Yes" while her head nods, means....... (you better not ask what it means)

Good luck.